November 5, 2012 Jeanne Rust

Six Tips to Help Your Love Your Body

Do you hate the way you look?  When you see yourself in a store window, do you think, oh my God, I'm so fat?  When you shower in the AM, do you do everything you can to keep from looking at yourself in the mirror?

Do you tell yourself that your thighs are disgusting?  Do you hide out because you hate to have people see you?

Body image is an identity issue. It's a picture you have in your mind of how your body looks to you. It is how you believe other people see your body. It is how you live in your body, carry your body around, and actually are in touch with your body.

"Fall seven times, stand up eight." –Japanese Proverb

Here is a Simple Body Image exerciseClose your eyes. Make a picture in your mind of what your body looks like to you. Review your body in your mind's eye from tip to toe. Be aware of what words you associate with your body.  Get in touch with the essence of your body image.  Be scrupulously honest with yourself. Now open your eyes. How do you feel in your body? Imagine that you wake up in the morning, and make your way to the bathroom to shower. Groggy with sleep, you turn on the water and take off your nightgown. As you are about to get in the shower, you see yourself in the bathroom mirror. "Yuck!" you say. "I feel so fat."

Unfortunately, most of us understand the feeling. We live in a society where fat is looked upon as being disgusting.  Each time a woman says, "I feel fat, she is saying, "There is something wrong with me." Each time she feels fat, she is feeling self-hatred and disgust.

It is important to know that almost "all" women have body image issues at some time or another.  People have the belief that their bodies are telling the world everything about them, when in reality, the body is simply a little house for the most wonderful part of you, the inside part.

6 Tips to Help You Appreciate Your Body

  1. Be realistic about your own body, appreciating that you have "a women's body."  What image comes up for you in your mind when you think about having a "woman's body?"
  2. Pamper your body. Take bubble baths, oil rubs, and massages.  Self-touch is important.
  3. Learn to eat in a healthy way – no diet.  Just a good flexible food plan.
  4. Protect yourself, associate only with people who accept you just the way you are.  Be strict about this. If you're thrown together with someone that has been emotionally abusive in the past, simply leave the room.  You need to protect yourself from anyone who might hurt you in any way.
  5. Get rid of the scale. (No more, "Good Morning, Mr. Scale. What kind of day am I going to have today?")
  6. Be a healthy role model for your family, especially your children and your friends.  You'll be able to see almost immediate results with family and friends as you change!

 

These suggestions are starters. Get to the place where you can put your arms around yourself and say I like you.  Get to the place where you can look at yourself in the mirror and say, "I appreciate you."  Then with practice you'll get to the place where you can look at yourself directly in the mirror and say "I love you" and mean it!