September 12, 2014 Faith

Let Yourself Fly and Face Your Fears!

Recovery from an eating disorder is complex. It's full of rollercoasters, intense emotions, radical acceptance, willingness over willfulness, courage, and perseverance. It's easy to go back to negative behaviors where the eating disorder can calm anxiety and make you feel like you have control. But, in actuality, you are only locking yourself back in the box while the ED destroys your life. Bottom line: Recovery can be very scary. As you continue your recovery journey, you will have to face both old and new fears. By gaining a new perspective of how to conquer those fears, you will build more strength and courage every time you step out of the box and face that fear.

Tess Marshall, M.A., who specializes in learning how to live a bold life, has created nine tips to face fear in the face so it no longer rules our lives:

1) GET COMFORTABLE WITH FEAR.

Try and do one thing each day that might cause fear and invite it into your life. Let yourself feel it and breathe through it. Every time you conquer a fear, it builds courage and opens up new doors in your life.

2) MAKE YOUR DOMINANT THOUGHTS POSITIVE.

Give yourself positive mantras, thoughts, and positive energy that generate success, whereas more fearful thoughts will just attract more fear.

3) DON'T GIVE TIME, ATTENTION, OR ENERGY TO FEAR.

Take action towards fear and don't let opportunities continue to pass you by. This can be difficult, but if you continue to be consistent, prepared, focusing on solutions, that energy will further motivate you to conquer what's ahead.

4) NEVER DWELL ON SCARCITY

Focus your attention on being ready, willing, and prepared for the beauty, wonder, connections, good fortune and favorable circumstances that are yours if you are willing to work and be open to it.

5) REVISIT YOUR VICTORIES.

Every time you conquer a fear, don't brush it under the rug. Celebrate it and use it to continue building courage, motivation, and strength.

6) LIVE VICARIOUSLY THROUGH THE VICTORIES OF OTHERS.

Read or learn about inspiring people, events, things that have occurred when people have faced fear in the face and overcome all obstacles to achieve their dream. Some examples are Walt Disney, Oprah, Robin Williams, etc. Maybe it's not a famous person or event; maybe it's a special person in your life.

7) ASK YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY FOR SUPPORT.

Use your support team to help you overcome fearful moments.

8) CREATE A SUPPORT GROUP OF FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES.

Having a strong support team helps build that foundation of trust and more willingness to overcome the fear. Supporting each other can make tough moments easier, and possibly even more fun.

9) PLAN TO BE GREAT

Create a list of your goals and conquer them. Use the SMART goal setting technique so you can celebrate even the tiniest step. The power is within you to overcome obstacles, and let your dreams and happiness re-enter your life.

No longer do we have to let doubt, fear, and anxiety dominate our lives. Don't let the ED or fear steal anymore joy, sleep, dreams, and goals. DO NOT let FEAR define your life. You are all strong and courageous! Sometimes we just need to dust ourselves off and remember that "I CAN" reach my goals and dreams.

A few quotes to fight fear with:

"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." — Eleanor Roosevelt

"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have."— Unknown

"We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot."— Eleanor Roosevelt