Rule #1: Accept your limitations. Encourage your loved one to get professional help.
Rule #2: Accept the other person's right to an independent life. Don't take charge.
Rule #3: Don't purchase (or avoid purchasing) food solely to accommodate the eating-disordered person.
Rule #4: Each household member decides individually what he or she will or will not eat. No one should be forced to eat anything or be restricted in what can be eaten.
Rule #5: Don't make mealtimes a battleground. Keep discussion about food issues to a minimum.
Rule #6: Be willing to negotiate household chores involving food.
Rule #7: The person with the eating disorder is responsible for their behavior whenever it affects others.
Rule #8: Do not monitor someone else's behavior for them (even if you are invited to).
Rule #9: Do not use money to control another person's eating behavior.
Rule #10: Do not anticipate someone else's needs.
Rule #11: Don't make eating out a battle of the wills.
Rule #12: Do not play therapist.
Rule #13: Do not comment about, someone's weight and looks.
Rule #14 Seek support for yourself.
Parents can help their daughters by doing the following:
What can you do if you or someone you know is struggling with an eating disorder, body image issues, depression, and low self-esteem?
One of the first things to do is to take care of yourself either by finding a good therapist or a local support group. You can read the book, "Surviving an Eating Disorder: Strategies for Families and Friends" by Michele Siegel, PhD, Judith Brisman, PhD, and Margot Weinshel, MSW. This is an excellent book and will be a tremendous support in helping you learn appropriate ways of dealing with your loved one.
Another excellent book is "Overcoming Binge Eating" by Dr. Christopher Fairburn. This book is excellent for anyone struggling with weight issues and binge eating.
For referrals, you can visit www.edreferral.com (including referrals for free treatment offered by certain facilities that have received government grant money). You can also find referrals at www.something-fishy.org.
FREE weekly eating disorder support group for adults struggling with food issues, staffed by therapists from Mirasol Eating Disorder Recovery Centers. Thursdays from 5:30-6:45 pm at 2954 N Campbell Ave. #157 in Tucson. For more information, call 888-520-1700.
"Mirasol is light years ahead of any other program in the country."